It's very important
to know yourself. In fact, one of the things that we have to do is help
women really feel like they are entitled to their dreams. Women are raised
in our culture to feel like if they're dreams are not about relationships,
about being a better sister or daughter or mother or friend, that they're
not entitled to that. But a woman who wants to do something like win the
Indianapolis 500 or be the CEO of her own company or climb Mt. Everest.,
we have to really help women to really feel like they're entitled to those
dreams. And we have to help men to really realize that honoring a woman's
dreams is one of the most powerful things you can do to have a great relationship.
We started doing little
ritual, where whenever one of the young women in the clan start to get
married, we have this, we call it the auntie circle. And all the women
who are married and been in relationships come and they kind of share
with the young woman who is about to get married. And what I always tell
them, is that the thing that's most important, is that you marry yourself
first, to know yourself, to be clear with yourself and not to be afraid
of who you are. And when you know who you are, then you have something
to share. You can stand in the face of anything that happens and not turn
tail and run.
"When you know who you are, then you have something to share"