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John Gottman, Ph.D.

Researchers that study relationships have found over and over again that the idea of not being selfish, really going beyond me into we makes all the difference in the world in terms of the success of that relationship. It seems kind of paradoxical, but when you really get involved in somebody else and realize that you're part of a team and put the team before your own needs, you wind up getting back tenfold.

Martha Sigall

We've always done things for each other. We have respect for each other. And we've always shared our ideas. We've always shared everything we've had. It's just been easier to do it that way.

Sol Sigall

And let me add it's been a pleasure doing the things. There are many times when I want to do something for her and she won't let me. She says. "I'll take care of it, I'll do it". When I'm not feeling well, especially. She does everything, everything. Nothing is too much for her.

Martha Sigall

The way we've done it, we always think of the other one first, and when you do that it comes back to you. It always comes back to you.

Sol Sigall

I guarantee, it comes back to you a thousand fold. It works.



"We always put the
other one first"