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John Gottman, Ph.D.

What makes a good marriage is really nurturing the friendship between you, The friendship is based on real interest in one another, real respect. It's about asking questions. It's about being mindful in small moments when your partner is asking for something and needing something. Being there, being present and about really caring.

Maria Kaj

Love is, I came home today and I want to tell you about my day and hear what you say in response. I'm looking forward, as I'm driving into the driveway, to seeing you so I can tell you about my day. And I'm gonna do that for the rest of my life. I can't think of anything better.

Deborah Gayle

I had to give up the idea of what I thought marriage was. I had to give up society's idea of marriage. I had to give up the idea that it's supposed to look a certain way. That it's supposed to have a certain definition. I feel that marriage is what two people make it.

Reverend Nirvana Gayle

It's something beautiful to embark upon. I know that for me, having had the opportunity to be with my beloved for these 33 years has been the most enriching experience for me. That if it weren't for that, I would not be anywhere the man that I am today.

Sol Sigal

There isn't a day that goes by that we don't say I love you to each other, over and over again. Although we've heard it from each other for 56 years. We know that to be a fact.

Lydia Heston

I think if young people understood how wonderful it is to have a good solid marriage at our stage of life, they might be a little less inclined to give it all up.

Charlton Heston

She's quite right. That is remarkable. We are, if anything, happier now than we were when we were just kids. When I'd just come back from the war. There is no happier than this. There is happier than that if you stick with it.