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Divorce Mythology
John
Gottman, Ph.D.
There are a number of psychologists and
psychiatrists who have suggested that what's responsible for the huge
divorce rate is really extramarital affairs and that's what kills
relationships. In fact, eighty percent of the couples are saying what
created the divorce was that they drifted apart emotionally, a
deterioration of the friendship and the marriage. They wanted
different things, different goals, different lifestyles. And that's
what's responsible. Almost all of them say that extramarital affairs
are primarily not about sex. They're really about finding somebody
who finds you interesting, wants to talk to you, you can confide in.
Sex is secondary. So it's a myth that extramarital affairs are the
major cause of divorce.
Reverend Nirvana Gayle
We've been through financial stuff, we've been through relationship
stuff, we've been through the infidelity thing, we've been through my
father dying. You name it, but each of those things hold us closer
together. We had a belief that those things are only coming up for us
to grow. And I'm not a wimp, I'm not a coward, I'm not going to turn
and tuck my tail between my legs and run at the first sign of
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