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John Gottman, Ph.D.

One of the most important things that we have found that makes the difference in how a relationship goes in the long term is people having access to their sense of humor - even when they're disagreeing. The "masters" (couples together happily for a long period of time) have access to humor and affection even while they're arguing and disagreeing.

Humor also reduces heart rate, particularly for guys. A wive's sense of humor really is very effective. It's soothing and has a long-term effect on the health of the marriage. So it's important to marry funny women.

Nancy Fisher

I think you have to have a sense of humor. I've told Chuck that one of the things I love about him is he makes me laugh. He took great offense to that. (LAUGHS) But what I meant was, he makes me happy.