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Be Gentle

John Gottman, Ph.D

One of the things we've discovered that really is, is quite interesting is that the masters of marriage are very gentle in the way they deal with one another and even in the way they present a problem….. They're presenting their, their complaints but they're doing it in a way that doesn't create this defensiveness or this sort of attack and de-, and defend mode uh that couples get into that really sort of pushes them apart from one another.

Nancy Fisher

I think the most important thing that I can give to him is that he feels good about himself. No tearing down, no tearing apart but just telling him how much I love him, which I do everyday and he does me everyday. Tell him how smart he is because he is, how cute he is, and how smart he is for picking me. But to make him feel good about himself, I think that's the nicest thing you can do for somebody.