It turns out that in all human interaction …what's par for the course is miscommunication, not communication. And communication is a lot like baseball where a good batting average is 350. This means that the baseball player's missing sixty-five percent of the balls. And that's true in human communication too and in marital communication as well.

Janet Salter

I think being coy or subtle is no good. You just come right out and say I would like to have a fur coat for our anniversary. And then that's it, instead of hoping that he'll say, darling, are you chilly tonight, which you know, they never do that.